There are so many videos, blog posts and books out there telling us the good habits to adopt to be our most successful selves. However, there is much less detail to be found telling us the bad habits that ruin our chances of success and damage our mindset.
So I have put together this list of 11 habits that distract you from what’s important and hinder your ability to pursue whatever it is that you’re passionate about.
Whether it be a new business, a fitness goal, a personal goal or a weight loss goal, make sure to not let these practices and thought patterns slip into your daily routine.
It has become a trend within the last few years for young people to embrace a very self-deprecating sense of humour. You will often hear twenty and thirty-somethings making jokes at their own expense, in a way to cover up their insecurities. You will see countless meme’s all over Facebook and Twitter with self-critical content that does nothing for us but feed our self limiting beliefs.
I say it’s time for this to stop. What may have started as a way to make light of things that we don’t like about ourselves has now just become an excuse to remain stuck in the same negative patterns.
If you’re constantly making jokes about the fact that you’re always tired, forever single, awkward, boring, overweight, unintelligent, then you are just affirming those beliefs and feeding that sense of negative self-worth.
If these traits have become a signature part of your sense of humour, then it might be scary for you to stop now as you may feel that if you stop making such jokes then you won’t be seen as funny anymore. But don’t let this fear get in the way – find other ways to demonstrate your humour and the people around you will enjoy your comedy just as much as they did before, without that cloud of gloom looming in the background.
I think every person in the world (including myself) have been guilty of feeling sorry for themselves when things don’t quite go their way. Reality is though that nobody gets their own way all the time, and somehow the world keeps spinning.
You need to learn to accept the fact that the world isn’t always fair and you won’t always get your way. What’s even more important is that when things don’t quite go to plan, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
Many people fall into a cycle of moping around in self-pity after they have lost an opportunity, had a falling out with a loved one or any other matter in their life hasn’t gone quite as per the plan. This behaviour can leave you in danger of missing further opportunities (which might be better than the one you originally lost out on) because you’re too focused on feeling sorry for yourself.
I can think of loads of times that I haven’t got the job I wanted, a date hasn’t gone as expected or a party I attended didn’t live up to expectations: however rather than feeling negative about the experience I just thought forward and ended up being offered a better job, meeting a guy I liked more, or still meeting somebody at the rubbish party that ended up becoming a lifelong friend, all because I left my mind open to the positive elements of the experience rather than letting my mind become consumed by the fact that things didn’t work out as intended.
Many people go through life feeling like the world owes them something – it doesn’t. You don’t deserve to graduate with top grades, to get your dream job after university or to have your business take off and become hugely successful.
These are all things that take work and dedication. The world doesn’t owe you a favour – success comes from applying yourself and being persistent. So if there is something that you truly want, then remember that the universe isn’t going to hand it to you – you are going to have to put as much work as you can into this project and over time that will pay off with the desired results.
BLAMING OTHERS FOR YOUR ISSUES
Sometimes when things aren’t going as planned or there is a source of stress in your life, it’ll be partly because another person is putting their negative influence on the situation.
However, blaming others for all your problems is a bad habit that many people are guilty of and before you know it, you have become this bitter person, who does nothing but hold onto resentment for others and blames the world for all their issues.
Take responsibility for your life. If you don’t like something, find out what you can do to change it. If there is a person who is causing stress or lack of motivation in your life then that person is possibly toxic to you and you should seriously consider removing them from your life.
GIVING UP TOO SOON
The number of people who give up on their dreams when they are a stone’s throw away from success is astounding. Many people will have a business idea that they work on in their free time for years, and then one day decide that it just isn’t going to work out so throw in the towel and go back to their day job until retirement.
But what if they were just weeks away from taking on a new client who would double their profits? What if they gave up just weeks before their blog or YouTube channel went viral? Instead, they have settled for a life that leaves them comfortable financially, but miserable on the inside.
The key to making anything work is never-ending persistence. Do not create a plan B. If you keep going and do not give up until you get what you want then there is no way for you to fail – you just haven’t made it yet.
If you ever feel like you are losing the momentum to carry on after numerous rejections then it’s okay to take a short time off to rethink your strategy – but that doesn’t mean quit. Find a way to remain motivated even when your dream seems impossible – if you never give up then one day you will be successful.
“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.”Napoleon Hill
TAKING ADVICE FROM THE WRONG PEOPLE
Never take advice from the people who don’t have the results that you desire. What is the point in taking career advice from a person who has spent their whole life climbing the corporate ladder, when you aim to start your own business and work for yourself? That person is not going to have the skills or knowledge of how to create a successful company because that isn’t the path they chose to take in life.
You wouldn’t go to visit your dentist for advice on how to do your taxes, would you? You would visit a financial adviser because they are going to have the skills and knowledge required to give you the best advice on that topic.
So don’t look at things differently in any other area of your life. Seek mentors and advisors that have success in the areas that you are looking to develop in, and only take the advice of the people who have the results that you are looking to achieve.
We live in a world where everything is so readily available at our fingertips. We can find the answer to most questions within seconds with the invention of smartphones. Buying online has never been easier with services like PayPal, next day and even same-day delivery and through credit and finance agreements. It’s so easy to purchase things that we realistically can’t afford because companies will wrap products up in fluffy, ‘zero deposit’ and ‘cheap finance’ deals.
All of these inventions are incredible, and in many ways have changed the world around us for the better. However, having all this information and products available to us so easily has created a generation of ‘I want it and I want it now’ mentality.
When we make irrational and quick decisions about purchases and lifestyle choices, we are in danger of making the wrong decision and falling into debt. Heavy debt can not only cause an immense amount of stress on you and your family, but it can also affect your ability to get credit which in turn will have an impact on making business purchases and being able to obtain business loans.
So take the time to be more considerate in the decisions you make. Before making a big purchase, ask yourself is this something you really need, have you done your research and can you afford it? If the item isn’t a complete necessity, try and wait to pay for your purchase in full rather than using credit.
LACK OF SLEEP
Sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on our lives in so many different ways. It won’t just age you and make you look tired throughout the day; sleep deprivation can have much more serious effects on our success in life.
Tiredness makes you irritable, slow, less concentrated, bad at problem solving and unmotivated to keep going. These all, in turn, will ruin your chances of being successful in whatever it is that you are trying to build. So make sleep a priority and aim to get a minimum of seven hours each night.
When we’re working on any project that means a lot to us, it’s only natural to want to produce a perfect result. However, being too pernickety about every single detail can actually turn out to be a hindrance, and can take your time and attention away from the matters that make the biggest difference.
It isn’t possible to be 100% perfect in everything that we do – and that’s ok. Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses, so try to focus on the things that you can control and that are going to make the difference rather than trying to perfect every single minute detail of the things that don’t really matter.
Try to also reduce the number of tasks that you have to manage. For example, if it’s a blog that you are wanting to start, and you are trying to increase traffic to your website through social media, focus on one platform in the beginning rather than trying to master Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and email marketing. If you can become an expert in one of these then you will see better results in your traffic growth and can eventually leverage your following from your one social platform to the others.
WASTING TIME (TV, SOCIAL MEDIA ETC)
Successful people spend very little time watching TV. While enjoying your favourite show can be an enjoyable way to relax and unwind, it can quickly take over and before you know it you have spent your whole weekend binging Netflix when you could have been working on growing your business.
Try to keep television time to a maximum of an hour a day. Better still, try to avoid watching reality shows and give your time to documentaries and educational shows instead.
The same rule applies to social media – it’s easy to get wrapped up in scrolling through Instagram comparing your life to your peers and celebrities when in reality, social media is only a snapshot of the best elements of a person’s life anyway. Unless social media is a significant part of your career, try to limit your time to no more than an hour a day checking your feed.
SAYING YES TO TOO MANY THINGS
We live in a society of endless opportunity, and it can be tempting to accept every offer that comes our way. Whether it’s a lunch invite, a new job offer, a side hustle opportunity, some additional freelance work, a party invitation or new sporting activity, you need to know when to say no.
Burning the candle at both ends will only lead to exhaustion and you will do all your tasks to a mediocre standard and excel in nothing. Suppress your FOMO (fear of missing out) and select only the opportunities that you feel you will enjoy or benefit from the most.
To Finish Off…
I hope that you find these tips useful and this article as given you some inspiration to get out there and make your dreams come true! If there is anything that you feel I have missed, then get involved in the conversation and leave me a comment below! I would love to hear what my readers have to say!