Learning life skills is an exciting and important part of growing up and gaining wisdom. There are certain things that can’t be taught in a classroom, and only real life experience will help us to develop these skills. Some might even argue that life skills are much more important and applicable than the subjects that we are taught in school!
Today I am going to share with you my top life skills and personality traits that I believe are most important to leading a confident, happy and successful adult life.
11 Essential Life Skills
Learn to negotiate so that you always get what’s fair, deserved and entitled to you in every situation. Nurturing your negotiation skills will help you to get pay rises, new job opportunities, travel opportunities, business opportunities and help you to nurture and flourish in your personal and professional relationships
DON’T FEEL INTIMIDATED
There is no reason for anybody to intimidate you. Ever.
If somebody is purposely trying to make you feel threatened or demeaned then that is abuse and you need to put a stop to it.
If you are feeling intimidated by somebody because they have what you want, they are in a position of authority or just simply because they aren’t very approachable, then just remember this: everybody was born in the same way and nobody on earth is more deserving or more entitled to respect and freedom of speech than another.
The way you shake hands with others is one of the first things that people notice when they meet you.
A weak, gentle handshake gives the impression that you are shy, easily persuaded and possibly a pushover. A strong, firm handshake shows confidence, authority and belief in your cause.
So find the perfect balance between gripping a persons hand firmly enough that you seem sure of yourself, but also not so firm that you immediately come across as overpowering or aggressive.
DISCOVER YOUR PARTY TRICK
We have all been in those situations where you are in a group of people, none of whom know each other, and you’re asked to introduce yourself and tell the group a fun fact about you.
The cringe takes over almost immediately and as your turn approaches, you get sweaty and nervous so much so that you can barely remember your own name, let alone the fact that people are likely to think is interesting.
So take some time to think of something amusing that happened in your life, that you can recycle every time you find yourself in one of these situations.
Perhaps it could be a celebrity encounter, a competition you won, a really weird job that you once did or the worst pick up line that was used on you. No matter how boring you think your day to day life is, there will be something that others will find comical and you can use this to make a great first impression among new groups of people.
KNOW YOUR TALENTS
Every single person is good at something. Whether it’s juggling, writing, drawing, sewing, giving advice or simply listening to others and being a shoulder to cry on
Take time to recognise your personal strengths and you will find it much easier to love and praise yourself. Recognising what you’re good at is a brilliant way to increase confidence and over time you will be able to utilise your strengths to help grow relationships and even open doors for business opportunities.
MAKE A TO-DO LIST
We all lead very busy lives, and it’s very common to become overwhelmed and lost in all the various tasks that we need to complete on a daily basis. If you are a busy parent, entrepreneur, student, homemaker or working a 9-5, or even multiple jobs, then there are probably a million and one things that you need to be doing at any one time.
The best way to keep track of what you’re doing and get the most out of your day is to maintain a to-do-list all the times. Whether you use the notes app, reminders, Evernote, a bullet journal, or a good old sticky note, find a method that works for you and you will find that you get a lot more done.
UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF FOLLOW UP
Ever ask somebody to do something for you, or look into something, and they say they will get back to you but never do? Often times when this happens, it’s not that the other person doesn’t want to help, or they can’t be bothered, it’s just that the subject has slipped their mind.
Don’t be afraid to follow up and remind the person that you are waiting on them. This skill will go a long way in developing your sales and negotiation skills, especially if you are a business owner. Following up on a subject does not need to feel like you’re being pushy or annoying. In fact, it’s likely that the other person will be super grateful that you have reminded them of what they need to do.
Having compassion for other people’s emotions, decisions and personal circumstances, and taking the time to listen and give advice is one of the most powerful ways to get people to like you.
Put yourself in other peoples shoes, and never just look upon a situation with tunnel vision, only caring about how it affects you. Treat others how you would wish to be treated, and you will not only be a well liked human being, but you’ll likely also be much happier.
Learn to budget, save and invest your money like a real business person as early in life as possible and you will be sure to go far!
Always check your accounts weekly if not daily, pay your bills on time, minimise the amount of money you borrow and don’t overspend on frivolous items. Getting into debt at a young age, and creating a situation where you find yourself living paycheck to paycheck is one of the biggest causes for stress, depression, relationship breakdowns and even substance abuse.
So educate yourself as much as possible on how to manage your finances and look for realistic solutions that will work for your family and your personal circumstances.
Excellent manners will take you a very long way. Hold doors open, say “please” and “thank you” and give your seat up for the elderly, disabled and pregnant. Look for ways to help others and do so without expecting anything in return.
People remember manners, and good manners don’t cost a dime. So allow yourself to have a reputation of being polite courteous and kind to everybody that you meet in life.
PUTTING YOUR HEALTH FIRST
You’re no good to anybody including yourself if you are overworking yourself so much and not looking after your health. Eat a balanced and nutritious diet, exercise regularly, drink your water, get enough sleep and don’t take on too many things at once.
Burning the candle at both ends will just end up resulting in sloppiness, poor mood and burnout, so learn to pace yourself and take care of your body so that you can be the most productive and effective version of yourself possible.
To Finish Off…
I hope you enjoyed this post and were able to take something away that you can apply to your own life. If there are any tips or skills that you believe are important to master in life then let us know in the comments below – lets all develop and grow from one another as a community!