Of course, everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but it is my belief that there are a number of topics which should always be avoided when you’re speaking to anybody besides your significant other or your immediate family.
Even with family, some topics remain in the no-zone, not because of a lack of trust, but because some topics just create awkwardness no matter how close you might think your relationship is.
So to help you avoid making yourself or others around you feel uncomfortable, I have put together a list of topics that you should never talk about.
If not to avoid group embarrassment, then some of these topics made their way on the list because they’re just downright tacky and make you look bad if you keep bringing them up.
Whether you’re at a work party, family birthday or you bump into somebody on the street, make a mental note that these topics are not appropriate and you’ll be sure to avoid any awkward situations in the future.
8 Things You Need To Stop Talking About
Gossiping is one of the biggest enemies of every person on this planet.
It’s either not true, or it is true but the person at the subject of the gossip wouldn’t want people knowing all the details.
Gossiping makes you look like a busy-body who has little of interest occurring in their own life, so they feel the need to discuss and criticize other people’s business.
Spreading rumours about people, even if they seem harmless, can have a seriously negative effect on the subjects life and mental wellbeing.
You gain nothing from gossiping and don’t learn or grow as a person in any way. When was the last time you saw a super successful person talking about what Suzie down the road said to Mildred at the local street party last week…? I’m guessing not for a long time, as successful, busy people are much more focused on working hard and evolving as a person than talking about others.
Overall, by engaging in gossip you’re only putting out negative energy and making yourself look untrustworthy and frankly, quite sad.
How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.Steve Maraboli
Talking about how much money you have, how much things cost and how much you’re earning will always make people feel uneasy.
Whether you’re conveying that you’re rich, or talking about the fact you’re struggling it’s just going to make people feel uncomfortable and will either seem like you’re boasting or hinting for financial help.
If you’re doing well, then be modest and keep it to yourself. If people want to speculate then that’s up to them.
If you’re struggling, then confide in only your closest family, or consider speaking to a professional advisor.
Nobody cares about the details of what happened in last weeks budget meeting.
Even your colleagues don’t want to talk about work outside of work!
When it comes to your friends and family, chances are they’re in a different industry that makes little or no sense to you, and your job isn’t interesting to them.
It’s fine to ask how things are going, give a short answer and leave it at that, but don’t go into all the mundane details of how you hate your boss, you’re unfulfilled and you don’t support the company you work for.. You’re just gonna make it a yawn fest.
Stop talking about your damn ex.
They’re your ex for a reason and whether or not you have moved on with somebody else, or you’re making the most of the single life for a while, most people do not want to hear all the gory details of why the two of you split up, what they said in regretful text messages and who they’re seeing now.
If its a fresh breakup, then people will be sympathetic to the fact that you’re adjusting to your new life, but there comes a point after a few months that you need to move on.
Whether you’re talking to your best friend or a potential new partner on a date, they don’t want to sit there listening to you dragging up the past. It’s time to move on and focus on the present and the future.
We live in such a diverse society now that most friendship groups and even family dynamics consist of a range of people with different beliefs and religious backgrounds.
However, unless somebody asks you, don’t feel the need to start talking about your religious and spiritual beliefs when you’re around other people.
If people ask you and want to learn about your culture, then that’s absolutely fine – talk away until your heart’s content.
However, unsolicited conversations about your religious beliefs will just make people feel uncomfortable and as though you are trying to influence them into believing the same things as you.
In truth, even two people who are part of the same faith will probably have slightly different views, so it’s best to just leave the religion talk at the door no matter the company.
Similarly to religion, everybody has different views when it comes to politics.
It goes without saying that most people are going to support a different political party based on their personal circumstances, level of income, where they live and so on.
So discussions around politics can easily lead to arguments and even long term fallouts, as people bicker and try to invalidate other peoples views if their situation isn’t the same as the next persons.
Everybody has the right to vote for who they want to vote for, or to not vote at all if they don’t want to.
Vote for who you want to vote for and keep it to yourself. There is no right or wrong answer, and that’s the whole point of a vote… to try and please the majority and create a society where everybody is considered.
I’ll keep this one short.
Nobody needs to know. Literally, not a single person wants to hear, see or smell what goes on in the bathroom.
And that’s all I’m going to say on that.
The truth is, most people have some level of family drama going on behind closed doors.
Divorces, single-parent families and infidelities are sadly more common than ever and you would be really pushed to find a family without some kind of feud or breakdown in their history.
As a result, your friends and work associates probably don’t want to hear all the details every time they see you, as they’ve most likely got the same sort of thing going on in their own lives.
This doesn’t mean that your close friends can’t support you when you’re going through a really tough time, but there is a fine line between crying on your friend’s shoulder when times are rough and using them as a free therapist.
Make sure to vary the conversation, and only bring up these matters with your nearest and dearest friends when the time is right.
If you need more support, then consider counselling or talking to a specialist if you’re really struggling.
To Finish Off…
I hope this post was useful to you, and if any of the things on this list are topics you’ve been known to bring up in company, then next time you’ll catch yourself before you start.
Let me know in the comments if there are any other topics of conversation that make you feel awkward around others and I hope to see you back here soon for more lifestyle tips.