Ever wondered what are considered to be the most unattractive personality traits across the board?
It’s obvious to most people what particular personality traits are less than desirable. You don’t need to read a blogpost to know that nobody likes a cheat, a liar or a manipulator.
But other than those which are glaringly obvious, would you be able to name the specific traits which have been listed as the biggest turnoffs to those around you?
I get curious about a number of very random topics, so spend a lot of time researching the answers to the questions that pop into my head – so I thought it would be interesting to share my findings with my readers.
I have put together a list of what I have found to be the biggest no-no’s in a person. Whether you’re on the lookout for a partner, wanting to make new friends, or trying to impress your boss, if you recognise any of these qualities in your own behaviour, it might be time to reassess the way you behave and treat others around you.
These Are The 5 Most Unattractive Personality Traits
There is nothing wrong with being proud of your achievements. However, there is a big difference between self appreciation, and being a show-off. Humility and modesty are on the opposite side of the spectrum, and are commonly considered very endearing qualities.
While your friends and family should be more than happy to hear about what’s going on in your life and celebrate your successes with you, there is a balance between sharing what’s going on and bragging.
Nobody wants to hear constantly about your brand new sports car, flourishing business, how popular you are, how much you can lift at the gym and how half the town wants to date you – its just tacky to talk that much about yourself.
So make sure to keep all conversations equal – if somebody asks you what’s going on in your life, tell them – just remember to show an equal interest in what they have to say and ask them questions. Showing a genuine interest in others is what makes a person likeable.
You know those people who talk about nothing but negativity… you ask them how they are, and they answer something along the lines of “well work is a nightmare, my boss is out to get me, I have such bad luck in relationships, nobody wants to date me, all my friends are nasty to me, I can’t catch a break”… blah… blah… blahhhhhh…
There is a very big difference between confiding in your loved ones when you’re going through a tough time, and using them as a verbal punching bag.
A good friend will give you the time you need to make it through a tough time, whether that be a relationship breakdown, financial difficulties, work problems, or whatever the case may be.
However, the time does come at some point where you just need to get over it. You can’t let your problems define you as a person, and there comes a point where you have to make a choice to stop believing that ‘you’re just unlucky’.
Not only is that going to stop you moving forward in life, but people are going to get pretty sick of you if you are incapable of any conversation other than a pity party.
Gossiping about other people immediately makes you seem unkind, untrustworthy and frankly quite sad.
If people witness you constantly talking about other people’s personal lives, then what makes you think that they would view you as somebody that they could confide in when they need somebody to talk to?
Gossiping makes you look like a busy-body who must have a rather empty life of their own, so they feel the need to discuss and criticize other people’s business.
Spreading rumors about people, even if they seem harmless, can have a seriously negative effect on the subjects life and mental wellbeing.
NOT ACCEPTING BLAME
We all make mistakes, and we all mess up from time to time. Some more than others – and honestly, that’s totally okay.
What many people don’t realise, is that you learn the most from your failures rather than your successes. The biggest lessons are taught by doing something wrong and embarrassing yourself, getting in trouble or having an argument with a loved one.
While it can seem like the worst thing you’ve ever been through at the time – and that might just be true – the time will come when the wounds heal, and you’re able to see the overarching lesson clearly.
So if you’re unable to admit when something is your fault, then you’re never going to be able to learn and grow from the experience.
Some situations are more complex than others, but most of the time when it comes to mistakes, it’s clear to outsiders who should be held at fault. If you’re not able to hold your hands up and admit that you messed up, it makes you look childish and irresponsible.
It’s off putting to others to see somebody who can’t recognise the error of their ways, and makes people question whether you can be trusted, and if you’re a responsible person.
Greed, whether it’s for materialistic things, or in terms of attention, opportunity and success, is a serious turnoff.
It’s one thing being ambitious and knowing what you want in life, but if you can’t take a step back and be thankful for what you already have, then people aren’t going to want to be around you.
They say that most successes are about the journey that you take to get there. If you’re only focused on the end goal, and the reward that comes with it, you’ll never be able to recognise the lessons you learnt along the way, appreciate the people that were there by your side or the sacrifices that went into success.
Living this way means that when you actually do get what you want, you won’t truly appreciate what you have, as you’ll already be thinking about the next thing.
This is a very selfish and indulgent way of living and people who behave in a such greedy way aren’t able to appreciate their blessings in life as they’re always seeking more.
If you feel you’re guilty of this, then take a step back and instead of thinking about what you want that you don’t have, spend some time thinking about what you have already that you’re thankful for – no matter what your current situation looks like, every single person on this earth has something to be grateful for.
To Finish Off…
I really hope you enjoyed this post and if you recognise any of these unfortunate personality traits in yourself, then maybe take some time out to work on these areas. Perhaps this post was what you needed to make some changes in your life.
If you know somebody who demonstrates these qualities, such as a partner, family member or a close friend, then maybe take them aside and point out their ways. They won’t want to hear it at first, but over time, hopefully they’ll see that you’re just looking out for them and trying to help them grow as a person.
Let me know in the comments below if there are any other personality traits that you feel are real turnoffs in another person – it’ll be interesting to start a conversation below and see how you guys feel about this subject.
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