Most people have the best intention of doing all the good things… but somehow, when it comes down to actually doing the things, we find ways to self sabotage.
Whether you’ve set goals to wake up earlier each day, do more exercise, eat healthier, be more productive, or finally start that project you’ve been thinking about for the last six years…
We all have the right ideas of what we know we should be doing with our time, but its so easy to fall into bad habits and end up doing the total opposite of what’s good for us.
So I’ve put together a list of some of the most common ways that people self-sabotage their own lives. Every person reading this will have been guilty of some, if not all of these bad habits at some point in their life.
The purpose of this post isn’t to make you feel like crap – actually, it’s the opposite. Acknowledging our weaknesses is the best way to grow stronger and improve in future.
So if you’re sick and tied of being sick and tired, then here are some things you need to stop doing immediately in order to live a more purposeful, focused and productive life.
6 Surprising Ways You’re Ruining Your Life
Gossiping is one of the biggest enemies of every person on this planet. It’s either not true, or it is true but the person at the subject of the gossip wouldn’t want people knowing all the details.
Gossiping makes you look like a busy-body who has little of interest occurring in their own life, so feels the need to discuss and criticize other people’s business.
Spreading rumors about others, even if it seems harmless, can have a seriously negative effect on peoples lives and mental wellbeing.
You gain nothing from gossiping and don’t learn or grow as a person in any way. Gossiping about other peoples personal lives distracts you from working on your own goals, and it won’t be long before your own work, relationships and personal life suffers.
By engaging in gossip you’re only putting out negative energy and making yourself look untrustworthy and frankly, quite sad.
If you want to lead a happy, healthy and successful life, then the late nights need to stop.
If you’re always going to bed late, then your body isn’t getting the rest it needs to function at full efficiency during the daytime. Sleep deprivation leads to irritability, lack of concentration, inability to solve problems, lost creativity and sloppiness.
If you’re serious about getting into a healthy sleeping pattern, you need to go to bed and wake up at the same time every single day – even on weekends.
You might get away with an extra half hour or so between the sheets at the weekend, but if you let yourself snooze until midday when you’re not working, then it won’t be long before your sleeping pattern slips back to old ways on weeknights too.
An irregular sleep schedule confuses your body clock and you’ll end up sleeping in late the next day after an all-nighter to make up for going to bed late.
NOT SETTING BIG ENOUGH GOALS
If your goals don’t totally scare you, then you haven’t set big enough goals.
Setting goals of any kind is to be admired, however, if you set a goal that you already know you can achieve, then you’re not going to push yourself to the max.
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.Norman Vincent Peale
Try this while you’re reading along: stand up with your feet flat on the ground and put your arms straight above your head. Reach up to the ceiling as high as you possibly can.
Now you’ve done that, I want you to just reach a tiny, tiny bit higher. Really push and reach your arms those few extra centimetres.
See what happened there? I asked you to reach as high as you possibly could, and at first you settled for average. Then when I asked you to reach that little bit higher, you still had some extra push in you. So why didn’t you push yourself all the way in the first place?
Set a goal that is achievable, but you don’t yet know how you’re going to make it happen. If you really set your mind to accomplishing it, then you’ll find it somewhere in you to make it happen.
NOT SAYING NO
Learning how to say “no” when something isn’t in your best interest is one of the most valuable skills a person can learn. Saying yes to everything through obligation can lead to you having too much on your plate, in turn risking burnout. Never say yes to an invitation just because you feel you have to if you think it could compromise you health, happiness or financial situation.
If your friends or family give you a hard time because you’ve said no to something, sit them down and explain the reason why. Usually, they will understand and support you and your best interests – and if they don’t, you really need to consider whether those are the kinds of people you want in your life…
Perfectionism is one of the most counterproductive characteristics, that most people experience at some point during their life.
The need for perfection can cause serious damage to your relationships, business, mental health and overall success. It’s crazy when you think about it, as deep down, most people’s need for perfection comes from the fact that they’re so passionate.
You just need to learn when to let go and understand what it is that deserves the majority of your energy, and which areas can cope with a little less focus.
People commonly reject the help of others, as they’d rather do everything themselves so it can be done just the way they like – however, all that ends up happening is you burn yourself out, and no doubt fail completely.
It isn’t possible to be 100% perfect in everything we do – and that’s okay. Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses, so try to focus on the things that you can control and that are going to make the difference rather than trying to perfect every single minute detail of the things that don’t really matter.
We live in a world of endless opportunity, and it can be tempting to accept every offer that comes our way. Whether it’s a lunch invite, a new job offer, a side hustle opportunity, some additional freelance work, a party invitation or new sporting activity, you need to know when to say no.
Burning the candle at both ends will only lead to exhaustion and you will do all your tasks to a mediocre standard and excel in nothing. Find a way to conquer your FOMO and commit to only the opportunities that you feel you will enjoy or benefit from the most.
Comparing yourself to others is a complete waste of your time and energy. No matter how long you spend comparing yourself to another person, you are never going to be them.
Instead, spend your time working on your goals, fitness and being kind to others, and you are much more likely to find happiness that way.
People usually compare themselves to people who have a seemingly perfect life. It’s important to remember that most people only show the very best elements of their life on social media.
Photos are edited beyond recognition, captions are pondered for hours to appear witty and effortless. At the end of the day, it’s all a performance and if you’re comparing yourself to people you see on Instagram with ‘perfect’ lives, then you’re comparing yourself to something that isn’t even real.
To Finish Off…
I really hope you enjoyed this post and that you’ll be able to take a step back and recognise if you’re following any of these damaging patterns in your own life.
Be sure to share in the comments below if you have any other tips or habits that you like to live by in order to live your best life. Make sure to check back soon too, as I post brand new lifestyle, personal finance and productivity tips on The Angelina Archives every single week.