Being an adult is hard. And nobody ever teaches us how to be an adult.
Sure, parents, teachers, peers and friends will give us advice along the way, but still end up finding ourselves in unexpected situations for the first time, and have no idea what to do next, how to manage whats happening or how to handle it.
There is no rule-book on how to live your best life. We all go through different challenges, meet different people along the way and we’re all dealt a slightly different hand.
However, if you’re able to equip yourself with a few handy life skills, then when you do find yourself in a pickle, or in a weird situation that you’ve never faced before, you’ll have a bit more of an idea of how to move forward and handle yourself.
So I have put together a list of life-skills that I think are essential to have by the time you reach your mid twenties. Having a basic hold on these concepts in my late teens and early twenties, helped me to handle myself in bad relationships, bad work situations and a number of other challenges.
5 Handy Life-Skills You Should Have Mastered By Age 25
1. How To Sell Yourself
There are going to be plenty of times in your life where you need to be able to sell yourself as a person. Whether it be a job interview, a first date, a sales pitch for a product you’ve created…
If you want somebody to invest in you in any way at all, you need to sell yourself as a person. Whether it be that you’re making a point of your professional skills for a job opportunity, you’re showing that you’re a kind, loyal and fun loving person whilst on a first date etc.
People buy into people, so whatever the reason you’re wanting to make a good impression, you need to be confident in what you have to offer, and don’t be afraid to let others know why you’re so great – in a humble manner of course!
2. How To Respect Yourself
Having a sense of self respect will help you at many points in life. Whether you’re in a toxic relationship, you feel you’re being taken advantage of at work or you have friends or family members in your life that are not treating you as they should be.
We know in our gut when things aren’t right, but the real skill is having the confidence and the self respect to do something about it.
Always remember that there is no excuse for anybody to pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do, talk down to you, disrespect you or manipulate you. If you suspect any of these things are already happening, then remind yourself that you don’t have to put up with it.
3. How To Stand Up For Yourself
Sadly, bullying doesn’t stop once we leave school.
Whilst you might not experience bullying in the same way that kids do in the playground – pushing and shoving, name calling and stealing lunch money – you’ll be very lucky if you make it all the way through your adult life without experiencing some form of bullying.
Following on from point 2, if there is anybody in your life who is manipulating, disrespecting, talking down to you or pressuring you into doing things you’re not comfortable with, then these are all sneaky forms of bullying and you should’t tolerate it.
Knowing how to stand up for yourself is key if you want to protect your mental health and wellbeing, and sometimes even your physical safety.
Pull the person aside to talk things out, let a manager or superior know, leave a toxic relationship or remove people from your life who are having a negative impact.
These are just some ways you can stand up for yourself as an adult and it’s essential that you know how to do this and when it’s time to put your foot down.
4. How To Care For Yourself
You need to understand how to care for yourself properly and what you body needs to function.
Make sure you’re getting the right amount of sleep that you need, eating the right foods to look after your body, exercising regularly and taking time out from work and responsibilities to enjoy a bit of fun.
As you get older, you usually accumulate more responsibilities, whether that be greater pressure at work, running your own business, relationships, children, finances and so on.
With all these things to juggle as an adult, it’s so easy to put your physical and mental health on the back burner – but remember, if you do this then it’s only a matter of time before it all catches up to you and you burn yourself out.
5. How To Say No
Saying “no” is a skill that is extremely undervalued but is essential to leading a happy and healthy life. Its okay to say no to invitations and events if your schedule or budget doesn’t have space, or even if you simply don’t feel like going.
It’s also your right to say no if a friend or family member asks you to do something for them that you don’t feel comfortable with, or that you don’t have time for. Many of us are in the habit of doing things out of obligation, even if it doesn’t serve our financial or mental well being.
So get into the habit of putting yourself first, and if you want to say “no”, then say “no”.
To Finish Off…
I really hope that you enjoyed this post and that it’s allowed you to reflect on a few areas of your life that might need a little attention. Nobody ever teaches us how to be an adult, we all have learn as we go along – so never feel bad if you’ve made it to a certain age and you’re not where you though you would be.
All we can do is try to be kind to others, and help in any way we can, and hope that things turn out for the better.
Let me know in the comments below which was your favourite tip from this post, or if there’s any other life skills that you think are important then drop those in the comments too!
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